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Make The Most Of Your Sex Aids And Sex Toys - Tips On Sex Toy Usage

The Right Sex Toy For You
There's nothing like expecting a night of fireworks from a sexy new toy and then finding it's got more fizzle than bang. Sure there are sex toys that just won't work for you, and some that are more hype than help, but as often as not, the consumer hasn't done enough of his or her own homework when selecting the toy. You wouldn't buy a car without doing a little research, and since you can't test-drive a sex toy, you really want to think about some of this stuff before buying! Here are some basic pointers:

Know Yourself - I mean this in the biblical sense. Believe it or not many people buy toys without really thinking about where or how they want to use them. Maybe they think the vibrator will magically know what to do when it senses a body nearby. But it will help a lot if you know what body part you want to stimulate (clitoris, vagina, penis, anus, etc). If you don't know, masturbate. This will help you discover what kind of stimulation you like (hard, soft, slow, fast) so you can choose a vibrator with a similar intensity. If you're looking for a dildo, one handy trick that's been passed around: buy a cucumber and peel it down to a size you find comfortable for insertion. Measure the length, then cut it in half and measure the diameter. Now you know what size dildo you need.

Lots of people share stories of experimenting with things they find around the house as a way of discovering what feels good: a candle might help gauge dildo size, an electric toothbrush might clue you into vibrator intensity, a cardboard toilet roll might turn you on to a penis sleeve. While these are an enterprising and economical way to experiment, you'll probably find there are sex toys that get the job done more efficiently!

Sex toys and partners - If you're buying a toy for partner play, it helps to keep this adage in mind: "you can't please all the people all the time". What works for you might not work for your partner, so if you're expecting the toy to deliver mind-blowing simultaneous mutual orgasms, there's a good chance you'll be disappointed. Make sure your partner is a willing participant, otherwise you run the risk of making them feel inadequate or insecure if you whip out a new toy in the heat of passion. Keep a sense of humor, which comes in handy when you're strapping on a marble-colored dildo or a cock ring that looks like a dolphin. Whether or not they live up to your expectations, sharing sex toys with partners is a great way to communicate about your sexual needs and to explore new erotic terrain.

Remember Murphy's law - If a toy is going to run out of batteries or break down it will just before you reach orgasm. Consider keeping plenty of spare batteries on hand and stocking a back up of your favorite toy.

Toy Shopping Checklist
Purpose - What part (or parts) of your body do you want to stimulate? Is it for solo play, partner sex or both?
Texture - If you’ll be inserting the toy, do you want hard plastic or something more pliable: vinyl, rubber, cyberskin or silicone? Nonporous surfaces are easier to clean.
Shape - Smooth? Ribbed? Curved? Resembling a penis or non-realistic?
Size - If inserting, determine diameter and length before buying.
Color - Flesh tones? Pastels? Metallics? Jewel tones? Glow-in-the-dark?

Intensity - In general, electric vibrators (Hitachi) offer stronger vibrations than battery models (Classic).
Durability - Electric vibrators (Hitachi) and brand-name battery vibrators (Panasonic) last the longest.
Portability - Battery vibrators or rechargeable electric models travel well. Some (Rechargeable Vibe, Natural Contours, Lipstick Vibe) are discreet enough to pass any security check.
Noise - Coil-operated electric vibes (Tender Touch and Wahl Personal Massager) are the quietest, hard plastic battery vibrators (Classic) and some large wand vibrators (Hitachi) are the loudest.

Shape - If you enjoy the sensation of your anus expanding and contracting, you might want to buy anal beads (Love Beads) or a rippled plug (Ruby Ribbed). If you prefer penetration without movement, try a diamond-shaped model (Buddy) which you can wear in place. If you want to stroke in and out of your rectum, select a slim dildo (Willie).
Safety - Your anal toy should have a flared base (Buddy). Make sure that the surface of your toy is completely smooth and nonabrasive.

Sex Toy Lubrication : Guide to KY Jelly, Astroglide, and more
Back in the old days, when it came time to do the deed, folks had a choice of Vaseline or KY Jelly in their nightstand drawer. Now the market is literally saturated with slippery stuff. So what's the right juice to grease your groove?

Choose your lube - There are three main things to consider when picking a lube: What are the ingredients? What are you using it for? And how will the lube react chemically with you, your toys, and your safer sex supplies?

Water-based lubes: (KY Jelly, Astroglide) - Most popular lubes these days are water or glycerin based. These lubes clean up easily and have a non-greasy feel, making them a favorite of many. If they get dry during use, they can be "reactivated" with the addition of some saliva or water. Most won't stain your sheets or clothing if they don't contain any added colors. And unlike oil- or petroleum-based lubes, they are safe to use with latex condoms or gloves and rubber sex toys. Oil-base lubes will react with latex and rubber and cause them to break down.) These lubes vary in consistency, from light, slick liquids (good for basic fucking) to heavy, slippery gels (for anal sex and fisting).

Water and glycerin-based lubes include such popular brands as Astroglide, KY Jelly, Probe, ID, Moist, Slippery Stuff, and Wet. Some women react to glycerin and get vaginal infections, in which case you would want to look for a water-based lube without glycerin, such as Liquid Silk or Maximus.

Silicone-based lubes (Eros, ID Millenium) - These are the space-age wonders of the lube world: they seem to stay slippery forever. Because they're not water based, they don't dry out, and a little bit goes a long way. Popular brands include Eros, ID Millennium, Wet Platinum The drawbacks: a lot of sex toys are made of silicone, and using silicone lubes will damage them (although you can put a condom on them). Also, silicone lubes can be difficult to clean up, and some women find they cause vaginal irritation or infections.

Oil-based lubes (Vaseline) - Oil or petroleum-based lubes have become less common for several reasons. They're harder to clean up, they're not good for vaginal use, and they can damage rubber sex toys and latex condoms and gloves. But sometimes you just want some good old-fashioned grease. Vaseline, of course, is the granddaddy of them all, and some folks still swear by Crisco for fisting and anal toy work. Most of the oil-based lubes on the market are intended for male masturbation, apparent from brand names like Elbow Grease, Mens Cream, and Jack-Off Lube.

Anal lubes - There are several products on the market that are promoted for use in anal sex. Some lubes, like Maximus, Slippery Stuff Gel, Astroglide Gel, and Doc's Anal Lube are more heavy and viscous, to stay put during anal activities and hold up under the additional friction.

Other anal lubes contain a mild desensitizing agent, usually benzocaine or a similar topical anesthetic. These products can be helpful in overcoming discomfort and apprehension for anal initiates, but we recommend exercising caution when using them. Because they decrease sensation, they may increase the possibility of minor injuries occurring in the anal area if things get too wild. Obviously, if you split your asshole wide open, you will notice it no matter what, but if the area is numbed, the chance for minor tears in the anal membrane may increase. Just keep in mind that using a numbing lube does not give carte blanche to jackhammer someone's ass, shove a monster dildo up your butt, or take a fist on the first try, even if you can get away with it. Believe us, you will be sorry, especially the next morning when your sphincter is still sore. Although we suppose the numbing lube could come in handy then to ease the pain.

Some lubes for anal use come in squeeze containers with a nozzle, to get the lube further up in the rectum. While this may be a sexier way to apply lube, we think it is mostly for effect, and the results may be messy (namely lube splooging out of your butt during or after sex). It's also likely that you'll use more lube than you really need. You can get enough lube to the right places by just applying generously and repeatedly to your fingers, toys or penis.

Erection maintaining lubes - These lubes and lotions promise to help keep you hard or increase your stamina during sex. What most do is delay ejaculation by numbing the penis. They contain the same desensitizing agents in the anal lubes previously mentioned, so if you have already have some Anal Eze or Rear Entry, you can use that to desensitize your cock.

Flavored lubes - Most plain lubes don't have much discernable flavor other than mildly chemical or slightly bitter. Those that have added flavor and sweeteners may still be mildly chemical, slightly bitter, and cloying to boot. However, if you're combining oral sex with other activities, a flavored lube may taste better than the alternative. These products usually come in fruit flavors and are often scented as well. Because they must be edible, they are either water or glycerin based. They tend to be lighter weight and more watery, so if you want flavor but need a thicker lube, try mixing a heavier, unflavored lube with some of your favorite flavored lube.

Flavored lubes may contain sugar, which can lead to yeast infections if used vaginally. It's also sticky. For that reason, you may want to choose a flavored lube that's artificially sweetened. Wet brand flavored lubes contain no sugar and have relatively little bitter aftertaste. ForPlay is another line of artificially sweetened lubes that come in a wide variety of tasty flavors.

Warming and cooling lubes - Looking for extra sensations? These lubes will give you tingly chills or hot flashes, but not at the same time. Warming lubes contain an ingredient to increase blood flow to the skin, producing the feeling of heat. The increased circulation may also heighten arousal and sensitivity. Cooling lubes contain menthol or a similar ingredient to produce a unique icy sensation that is pleasurable for both men and women. Because of their chemical ingredients, these lubes should be used with caution if they are coming in contact with mucous membranes (inside the vagina or ass). Test them first, whether you are using them internally or externally, to make sure they don't cause any serious irritation. If you get a burning sensation that actually hurts, flush the area with water.
Sex Toy and condom compatibility - As we mentioned earlier, some lubes should not be combined with certain materials because they can cause damage. In general, water-based lubes can be used with anything. Oil-based lubes (Vaseline, etc) can cause damage to rubber toys, latex condoms or latex gloves (they are OK to use with silicone toys, polyurethane condoms, and vinyl gloves). Silicone lubes can damage silicone toys, but are fine to use with rubber or vinyl (cover a silicone toy with a condom to protect it if using silicone lube).

Sex Toy Lubrication Tips :
Use lube liberally. A little too much is better than not enough.
Test a small quantity of lube first for adverse reactions, especially if using for vaginal intercourse.
Use heavier lubes for anal sex.
Exercise caution when using desensitizing lubes to avoid injury.
Desensitizing lubes for anal sex and for prolonging erection contain the same numbing ingredients, so may be interchangeable.
Don't use an oil-based lube with anything made of rubber (including sex toys and condoms); it can cause damage.
Don't use silicone lube with silicone toys for the same reason.
Use sugar-free flavored lubes to avoid risk of vaginal yeast infections.
Mix flavored lube with a thicker water-based lube if you want taste with a denser texture.
To make your own cooling lube, add a drop of eucalyptus or peppermint oil to some of your favorite water-based lube. Test a small amount of the mixture first to make sure it's not too strong.

Vibrator Tips
Vibrators are fun for almost everyone, but are especially popular amongst women: using a vibrator clitorally is the easiest way for most women to reach orgasm. Here are some basic tips for getting the most out of your vibrator:

If you feel comfortable making a little noise, then you'll probably find that letting yourself moan or sigh on your exhalations will improve the whole experience. Moving or rocking your hips rhythmically, in time with your breathing, can also make a big difference. If the vibrations are the right speed for you but seem too intense, then you might try either draping a thin cloth between your clit and the vibrator or else leaving a light article of clothing on. You can also try moving the vibrator to the side of your clitoris rather than keeping your vibrator directly on it.

Just to see whether you prefer this sensation, try using lighter pressure but moving the head of the vibrator on your clit, rather than keeping it stationary and using heavy pressure.

For those who want to take things to the next level, here are some advanced vibrator tips :
If you're already comfortable moving your hips in time with your breathing, then try squeezing and relaxing your "PC" muscle (the same muscle you squeeze to stop the flow of urine when you're urinating) in time with your pelvic movements.
Many women find that clitoral orgasms (e.g. from a plug-in vibrator such as the Hitachi) feel especially good when accompanied by a little penetration. The Wavy G Dildo, the Crystal Wand, and the Kegelcisor are all popular choices.
Some women find they can have multiple clitoral orgasms with their vibrator. The secret is to back off on the pressure, keep the vibrator moving, and avoiding direct contact with your clit until the energy builds up again.

Men can enjoy vibrators too. For men with female partners, one obvious approach is for his partner to use a vibrator on her clit during intercourse with him; the vibrations will also diffuse into his penis, a sensation which some men really like. Men can also enjoy vibrators without a partner: this is a fundamentally different experience than masturbating with your hand, as (chances are) your penis will be semi-hard through much or all of the experience rather than fully erect. However, especially if you do the rhythmic breathing and pelvis rocking and PC muscle contractions, you may find that you like the sensation a LOT. Some men find they can reach pleasurable orgasms with a vibrator without ever having a full erection.
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